Love is Costly

Love comes in a high price. A price that entails hurt, pain, despair and sadness. When you begin to love, that is when you are susceptible to being clobbered, rejected or abandoned.

Love... only when you are prepared to get hurt.

Wisdom in Loving

Even when in love, one must find happiness in oneself instead of expecting it to come exclusively from the other person or any external sources. Others can very much contribute to our happiness. The self, however, is always in the driver's seat if one has a healthy internal locus of control.

What is Love exactly?

Someone says love is love when you remove the passion, the infatuation, the feeling of being on cloud nine, and you still accept the person for who they are and care deeply and immensely about the person, then that is truly love. In my opinion, that is truly unconditional love.

Can you still love someone who has broken your heart? Can you continue to love someone while they are in love with someone else? Can you love someone who has moved on with their life without you? I only know one person who is able to do the above - to love generously and selflessly without any conditions. It is a love that moves me.

Happiness

Happiness is the ratio between what you expect and what you get.

Experiences, goals and dreams shape our expectations. Must we give in to fate by giving up our dreams and lowering our expectations in order to be happy? I say not. Part of what makes life fulfilling, challenging and whole is thriving and reaching our goals and dreams - which gives us more than just happiness but true joy and contentment.

The success of love

"The success of love is in the loving, not in the result of loving." - Mother Theresa.

But what is the result of loving? ... winning the heart of the one you love?
The act of loving truly is about sacrificing and giving unconditionally, not expecting results.

Another year...

One year older, one year wiser.

Passion

It is very sad to watch passion in a love relationship diminish, and eventually, disappear.

Must passion die like flowers wilt? Most people agree. Some scientific stuides even attribute it to hormonal changes in the brain. I believe passion can be sustained or re-ignited by the chemistry between two lovers, with the help of a little feedback in love they give one another.

Timing is Everything

Any two events or entities coincide at different times produce different outcomes. The same applies to relationships. Two soulmates meet when the timing is (way) off creates a sense of regret and bitterness that lasts a lifetime.